Obnoxious
I'm not getting a lot of sleep these days. I have two small kids and they require a lot from me. I've practically given up a nap because I can't keep the house running otherwise. I can barely keep kids in clean clothes, fed and teeth brushed lately, much less myself. Last night got up 8 times between 11pm and 7 am. Seriously. So I think my hormones are all discombobbled and some things seem much more annoying than usual.
Take last Wednesday for instance. Someone called me and the conversation went like this:
Them: "Hi, you don't know *********(Christmas song) do you?"
Me: "Yeah I do. It's my favorite Christm-"
Them: "But you don't know the alto part I bet."
Me: "Yes, I do know it, I sang it in high school."
Them: "Well, can you sing with us on Sunday for the concert? We need an alto and a tenor (asking for my spouse to sing).
Me: "Actually I am doing (tech work) so I can't."
Them: "You can't just set the lights and walk down and sing and then go right back afterward?
Me: "With husband watching the kids it just doesn't work for us this year. It just isn't our season for it."
Them: "Oh, well, I don't need a second person, I am strong enough on my own. My husband doesn't either, but the song sounds better with more people."
Ok, the one thing that really gets me is how each sentence starts out as a challenge, an assumption that I can't do whatever is asked of me. Seriously, that puts the other person on the defensive right off the bat. The other part that gets to me is the ," You can't just..." part. I think this is best described as "MEIMVTY" disease. That is: My experience is more valid than yours. Which this person actually thinks all the time in this vein.
I am so tired and my son is crying again. I can't even explain how annoying that is, the whole, I know how to operate you life better then you do.
It makes me think this person thinks I am stupid.
Goodness I need a nap and a month away from said person.
Take last Wednesday for instance. Someone called me and the conversation went like this:
Them: "Hi, you don't know *********(Christmas song) do you?"
Me: "Yeah I do. It's my favorite Christm-"
Them: "But you don't know the alto part I bet."
Me: "Yes, I do know it, I sang it in high school."
Them: "Well, can you sing with us on Sunday for the concert? We need an alto and a tenor (asking for my spouse to sing).
Me: "Actually I am doing (tech work) so I can't."
Them: "You can't just set the lights and walk down and sing and then go right back afterward?
Me: "With husband watching the kids it just doesn't work for us this year. It just isn't our season for it."
Them: "Oh, well, I don't need a second person, I am strong enough on my own. My husband doesn't either, but the song sounds better with more people."
Ok, the one thing that really gets me is how each sentence starts out as a challenge, an assumption that I can't do whatever is asked of me. Seriously, that puts the other person on the defensive right off the bat. The other part that gets to me is the ," You can't just..." part. I think this is best described as "MEIMVTY" disease. That is: My experience is more valid than yours. Which this person actually thinks all the time in this vein.
I am so tired and my son is crying again. I can't even explain how annoying that is, the whole, I know how to operate you life better then you do.
It makes me think this person thinks I am stupid.
Goodness I need a nap and a month away from said person.
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